Author: Kimberly Dias | Jul 08, 2016
Often before meeting with children, a short meeting with the parent/s provides an opportunity to obtain a brief history of the child and arrive at a better understanding of their expectations. When parents talk about their worries for their children, I often hear these words “I work so hard and never let my kids see how much I struggle but they never value anything I give them. They always want more.”
When parents struggle to provide the expensive BEST for their children, itmakes me wonder if the old school teaching of ‘Less is More’, would be a wonderful concept to bring back. The importance of not giving children everything they want and giving them a chance to deal with the frustration from a young age is crucial as this allows a parent to help children work towards their goals and accordingly earn their rewards.
Children need healthy doses of Vitamin N (NO). This teaches them to delay gratification, a skill that has been linked to success in adult life. Just because parents can afford something, it does not make it a necessity for the children! Children are better equipped to face life’s challenges when they are aware of the reality, that in life, we do not always get what we want. Deprivation in measured amounts can result in resourcefulness and a cheerful acceptance of the vicissitudes of life.