I want to take my child, Robin*, to the circus.
Robin’s four years old and autistic so everything must be planned carefully to ensure that the outing goes smoothly. He has no trouble verbalising his needs but tends to get anxious when we go out. He doesn’t like being outdoors at night so we’ll take the afternoon show even if it means braving the hot afternoon sun. He also usually has his afternoon nap at that time so we’ll have to move lunch and nap to a little earlier.
Robin most likely won’t like the loud sounds of the crowds and the music. I’ll have to prepare him for these in advance. I’ll do this by talking about what he should expect, showing him pictures and maybe making a social story for him. I’ll also have to manage the sensory issues. Earplugs might do the trick.
He gets hungry often so I’ll pack some of his favourite snacks to take along. We’ll carry along some clothes to change into in case of spills or ‘accidents’, and a fidget toy or two to help calm any sensory overload. We’ll have another adult accompany us, just in case he needs to be taken outside mid-show so that they can stay with my other child.
Both kids will be in bright clothes so that they’re easy to spot in the crowd. Robin will wear an ID badge with my number on it since it’s very common for autistic children to wander off towards whatever looks more exciting. You can never be too careful in a crowd!
Preparing well and thinking things through can make every outing and event a success. It’s easy to stay home when you think things may get difficult. But then; think of all these little fun and exciting experiences your child could be missing!
*Child’s name changed.
Rebecca Marari is a Family Advisor at Sethu and parent of a child with autism.