At Sethu, we use a strengths-based approach to help children express themselves. Recently, Manoj*, 6, filled out the “This Is Me” (TIM) document, which is a simple framework that sparks meaningful conversations between parents and children about various aspects of life.
TIM focuses on areas such as what the child excels at, how they stay healthy, activities they enjoy, how they interact, how they feel supported, barriers they face, and supports that would help them thrive.
Manoj had a great time completing the form, but his answers brought a few surprises for his parents. He candidly shared that he didn’t like his mother’s shouting! While his parents were initially embarrassed, they were encouraged to create a space for honest conversations. This moment became a turning point.
In response, Manoj’s mom made a conscious effort to focus on her own self-care. She began attending Zumba sessions to manage stress, which has helped her feel calmer and more patient with Manoj.
When children’s authentic voices are heard, it not only helps them, but it also strengthens family dynamics. Manoj’s story is a beautiful reminder that providing space for honesty and self-care benefits the entire family. By embracing this approach, families can better support each other and grow together.
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References for the ‘This is me’ document
1. World Health Organization. The International Classification of Functioning, Disability and Health: ICF; WHO: Geneva, Switzerland, 2001.
2. Rosenbaum P., Gorter J.W. The ‘F-words’ in childhood disability: I swear this is how we should think! Child Care Health Dev. 2012;38(July (4)):457–463.
3. F-Words Knowledge Hub: https://www.canchild.ca/f-words